How to Pick up Women at a Coffee Shop like Starbucks

Starbucks is a phenomenon which has simply taken the world by storm. With over 16,000 stores strewn throughout 49 countries, chances are you have one near you and the business there is booming. And you can rest assured that where there's coffee in a nice environment, there will be women. Girls are very often alone at coffee shops and as such an approach is always much more feasible than in a setting (such as a bar or club) where girls are often flocked together, sometimes with other men.

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A good time to enter a Starbucks is when it's so busy that there are no empty tables to be found. Weekend afternoons and the hour or two after work on weekdays is generally your best bet, though it will depend on the location and clientele of the particular venue. Take a look around and find a cute girl who you'll have no choice but to sit near courtesy of the lack of overall seating. Walk up to her and ask (politely) if she minds if you have a seat at her table. If there aren't many free tables then the odds of her saying no are extremely slim, though there is the off chance that she may say something like “Oh well I was about to leave anyway” and gather her things (just shake it off; the small chance of this happening is easily outweighed by the good chance for a simple start to a conversation). Once you have a seat it's absurdly easy to open up with “wow this place is crowded today” (she may even beat you to it), or basically anything else you can come up with (comment on her clothes or book or iPod). The great thing about coffee shops is that girls aren't nearly as likely to blow you off for little or no reason as they would be in a bar (where turning away or walking off is a lot easier to do). You essentially lock the girl into conversation, and she'll be happy to be stuck once she sees what a great guy you are. Sometimes on cold days it will be busy inside the Starbucks but the tables outside may be vacant. If you spot a lone girl or two sitting outside (likely smokers) then you may be able to start an easy conversation them as well (bumming a cigarette sounds lame but it can work surprisingly well as an ice-breaker, so long as your clothes don't indicate that you can't afford a pack of smokes).  

It's not always possible to strike up an automatic conversation in this way, as Starbucks won't always be overly crowded. This is when the more standard “approach and start a conversation” technique is appropriate. Coffee is a bit of a social lubricant (sort of like alcohol but without the gradual loss of function), as caffeine tends to make people a little more awake and lively than usual. This can work in your favor when putting yourself out there

Use good judgment when deciding which girls to approach or not to approach,. Coffee shops are hotspots for college students who want to get a caffeine fix as they study for their big exams, so there are certain women who just don't want to be bothered even if they are quite attracted to you. Generally speaking, if a girl has a text book in front of her or if she's taking notes on anything, she's probably hard at work. You can take a look at body language to get an idea of just how enveloped in studying someone is by watching where their eyes go. If a girl is often looking up and around then she may not find a distraction too unwelcome, whereas if her face is glued to her book or laptop screen you might want to take a pass. If you're fearless, don't mind small time rejection (if you go at it this way it's not really rejection anyway), and just can't help yourself from going after a girl who's clearly hard at work, open your line with something like “hey I don't want to disturb you if you're busy”.This will give her an easy out if she really is busy or she's just not interested (you never have to know which it is), and she'll appreciate the courtesy. If a girl is listening to music, don't approach her. She's in her own world and earphones are a universal symbol for “I don't want to talk to anyone right now”.

The right girl to approach in a Starbucks is generally the one with only a coffee and a non-educational book or a laptop that is being used for recreation as opposed to work, writing, or studying. It's not always advisable to try to spy on a girl's laptop screen to see what exactly she's doing, but it's often times not hard to decipher. If you recognize sites like Facebook (doesn't everyone?) then all you'll need to do is catch a glimpse of a laptop screen to identify it. If you see a girl doing more mouse moving and clicking than typing, then that's a pretty good indicator as well that she's surfing the web as opposed to being hard at work. If she smiles at her screen the same conclusion can usually be drawn (who smiles at schoolwork or business?). Also, if you enter a Starbucks with the comfy couch type chairs and see a pretty girl sitting on one, there's a very good chance that she's there to just lounge around and wouldn't mind talking to a new person.    

Starbucks is a massively popular chain that's frequented by myriads of coffee lovers worldwide. People tend to be off their guard at coffee shops and in an overall pleasant mood; communication and interaction in such an environment can often be effortless. So make your next trip to the local Starbucks more than just a pink-me-up and try to pick someone else up. You may be surprised at just how easy it is to be successful.