10 Ways to Ensure a Second Date with a Girl

Now that you have landed the date of your dreams, you can’t wait to show her how lucky she is. But if you don’t want this to turn out to be your last date, you need to keep certain things in mind. Here are ten ways to make your first date a success and ensure a second date with a girl.

1. Let your first impression be the right one.

   This includes showing up on time to pick up your date and keeping in mind the small courtesies which add up to an irresistible whole. Like holding open doors and pulling out chairs for your date. At the same time don’t forget your behavior to the servers for any sensible girl would see through you if you act like jerk to the waiter and yet are the perfect gentleman with her. If you are already hoping for a second date with this girl, it means she is special in some way and a little effort towards creating a favorable impression will go a long way in persuading her to see you again.
    

2. Dress appropriately.

   On a first date, it is best to dress simple but smart. You could team up a nice tee or jacket with solid colored pants or go for a semi-formal look. At the same time, to give your appearance a recall value, highlight a specific aspect of your personal style like the use of a signature cologne or an accessory like a watch or cuff-links. However don’t go overboard with men’s jewelry or accessories since they will only serve to distract her.  Above all, don’t forget the basics of male grooming like clean hair, nails and breath.

   
    

3. Create your own memories.

   You can do this by playing a soft jazz or smooth rock in the car. In fact you could even select a special song or tune just for the date. The music will not only put your date in a relaxed mood but sink into her subconscious and later give her something to remember you by.
    

4. Listen rather than talk.

   The importance of listening to your partner on your first date cannot be emphasized too much. No one, much less a girl you’ve just met, likes a person who goes on about himself ad nauseum. So instead of bragging about how you were the best football player in your high school team or how girls seem to get drawn to you like flies, hold back and ask your date to tell you all about herself. This way you will not only come across as someone who is really interested in her but will keep back just enough to make the girl want to know more about you – perhaps on the second date.
    

5. Pay a compliment.

   Or two. When you appreciate some aspect of a woman, be it her dress, an accessory, an aspect of her personality or even her choice of an entrée during dinner, she is bound to feel pleased about herself. More than that you will come across as a guy who knows a good thing when he sees one. However make sure that your compliment is genuine and you don’t lay them too thick.
    

6. Stay focused.

   Once you have sailed through the preliminaries of the date and settled down comfortably for the evening, perhaps at a movie theater or during a dinner, it is easy to let your attention wander. You might be tempted to give the attractive woman at the next table a second glance or zone out while your date talks about her high-school pals. However if you want a second date with this girl, you cannot afford to make such mistakes. Just the fact that she has agreed to spend an evening with you demands that you reciprocate by offering her your full attention. More than that, signs of your apparent disinterest would not leave her with any reason for agreeing to a second date with you.
    

7. Keep away from controversial subjects.

   Admittedly you want to appear interested in what your date thinks and feels but first dates are hardly the right occasions for discussions on sensitive topics like religion and politics. These subjects usually make for diverse opinions and you don’t want to appear too conservative or too liberal to get a second date with the girl. If you must know whether your date believes in God, ask the question and then quickly move on to the next topic.
    

8. Have fun.

   Keep all the above tips in your subconscious so that they do not make you too anxious to have a good time. Laugh a lot and stick to pleasant subjects. If negative thoughts do intrude in your mind, bring back your focus on the person before you. Make the evening a happy and memorable one for your date and she will be sure to do this sometime soon again.
    

9. Don’t take it too fast.

   Even if you are smitten hard by your partner, you need to keep your hands off her if you want her to turn up for a second date. Nothing kills a budding relationship faster than a guy who comes off as a creep and is all over a girl before she has given him permission or even a clear signal that she would like to get physical.
    

10. Finally call her.

    If your first date has gone well and you would like to see your partner again, make sure you give her a call within a few days. If you take too long to make up your mind or play hard-to-get in a mistaken attempt to make her want you, the girl may simply take your silence as a sign of disinterest and move on.

Lots of relationships which start out as first date disasters actually go on to become quite happy ones. But this does not mean you should take a chance with a girl whom you particularly want to know better. So have confidence in your charms and at the same time be a real gentleman.  And your date is sure to be seeing a lot more of you than others.