How many times have you found girls complaining that all the nice guys seem to be taken. True it is hard to find caring and supportive men who are not in a relationship – but that doesn’t mean you give up the search and settle for less. If you have been with selfish, egoistic men more times than you care to remember and are now looking for someone genuinely nice, here are ten places you can check out.
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- At a friends’ place
If you are keen to meet a nice guy, sounding out your friends and family is one of the first things you should do. People who love you are most likely be discerning in who they will introduce you to and you can be more or less assured that they will not be setting you up with a guy who has a history of bad checks or failed relationships
- Community events
Make it a point to attend social events organized by your church, synagogue or community elders with kids in tow. Here you can check out most of the single and eligible people in your community and at the same time you do not have to worry about your kids being uncomfortable at the event. This way you will not be passing another Saturday night with someone you don’t know at all and ultimately find that you never want to see again.
- A Hobby club
Been there, done that – you are about to say. but actually a hobby or a special interest class is still one of the best ways to meet new people who are more likely to have well-balanced life than the ones you may pick up at a bar or nightclub. Best of all, this option will not only bring you in touch with people with similar interests but help you to learn something new and interesting at the same time. If you want to play safe, you could join a class related to something you already enjoy like music or hiking. On the other hand, you could end up having more fun by trying out a new interest like wine appreciation or ballroom dancing. After all the whole point is to go out and do new things with new people.
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- Your favorite diner/café
A café or teahouse is more likely to attract guys who keep away from bars and late hours. Not that a teetotaler is a guarantee of good character but at least you know that anyone you meet here is not high on his seventh beer or recreational drugs. So look twice at the singles who are regulars at your own favorite diner or café. The best part about meeting a potential date over lunch or a latte is that this not only saves time but is a non-committal way of getting to know someone and find out what is important to either of you. There is little danger of either party assuming a hint of commitment since all you are doing is eating a pizza or sharing a cup of coffee together. After the break, you can go back, think about whether you would like to meet him/her again and then take it from there.
- Volunteer work
Doing volunteer work is a great way of meeting guys who are caring and selfless. If a guy is spending his time and resources to give back to the community, it can be safely assumed that he heart is in the right pace. Thus opt for a cause that you are passionate about so that you can enjoy helping others. If you are an animal lover, help out at an animal shelter or if you love the musty smell of books, see if you can spare a day at the community library. Even if you are reluctant to commit yourself on a regular basis, you could still come up with other volunteer ideas like taking a batch of home-baked cookies to the local fire station or sheriff’s office or getting involved in the organizing of country fetes, festivals and fundraisers. And if you happen to meet a potential suitor what better bond than a mutual love for philanthropic work?
- The grocery store
A shopping cart can speak volumes about the person accompanying it. So the next time you are out shopping at the grocery store, look for attractive men whose cart is loaded with fresh produce, lean meat and other healthy foodstuff. Again eating healthy may not be a surefire sign of good character but if a man is buying fruits and veggies, it means that he is conscious about his health and that is great news for girls who have had to put up with chain smokers and beer guzzlers in the past. Above all, a single guy doing the groceries implies that he cooks himself, and what can be more appealing than that in a potential partner?
- Neighborhood park
While guys interested in being ladies’ men are more likely to be found at gyms working on their biceps and abs, your neighborhood park has greater chances of attracting the family-oriented guy. So take your dog or borrow a neighbor’s poodle to the park at a time when you know other kids and their parents will be coming too. Watch out for single dads or those caring enough to walk their dogs. And even if your pooch befriends children with married parents, keep in mind that married people have single friends and they’re usually dying to hook those friends up.
- Bookstores and libraries
Men who have an intellectual side or at least count reading among their favorite pastimes are again likely to be a more considerate partner – at the very least such interests imply that a guy can look beyond a woman’s face or figure and connect with the person inside. Or that he does not believe in making money every spare minute of the day. So make it a point to frequent bookshops and libraries and especially browse through sections housing books on poetry, philosophy, culture and so on. Alternatively you can attend lectures and debates held at colleges and universities to meet men who are both intellectual and socially aware.
- Home improvement shops
Not all nice guys are of the intellectual sort – men who love their homes and being around their families are often found to be tinkering with their tools or carpentry sets. And there is something about a guy who can fix a dripping faucet or a noisy ceiling fan that just makes your knees wobble. Thus look around home-improvement stores and other similar venues for men who can repair things around the house and enjoy doing it.
- Your kid’s school
If you are a single parent, events at your kid’s school could also turn out to be pretty useful occasions to meet eligible men. With one out of every two marriages breaking up in western societies, there are bound to be other single-parent families in your kid’s circle. Get to know your kids friends and even if they do not all have single dads, you could network more with their families and share similar joys and challenges.