What are New Zealand Women Like - Dating Girls from New Zealand

Located in the southern hemisphere and tucked away to the southeast of Australia, New Zealand is a relatively newer country. But its lack of history is more than compensated for by its younger, vibrant population which is a mix of several cultures and ethnicities. And yet certain traits remain common which are typical of new Zealanders. So if you are male and heading down south, here is what you can expect of women from New Zealand.

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Girls of action

The frontier culture in New Zealand instills in people both the physical as well as psychological ability to live off the land. Due to this women too here are taught to be resourceful and quick with their hands right from their childhood. Unlike more prim European ladies, women in New Zealand don’t mind putting on their work boots and getting in the thick of action. Probably this goes back to the rural roots of New Zealand life which thrived on physical labor and mechanical expertise. This is also the reason why female new Zealanders are adept with their hands, fixing and lugging things and not waiting for a guy to come along and offer help.

They like who they are

One fallout of being girls of action is that women in New Zealand don’t care much for the feminine trappings. They are more comfortable in jeans and a sturdy T rather than in flimsy dresses and six-inch heels. This preference of the practical and comfortable may have originated in the rural culture of New Zealand. But now even when the majority live in urban areas where there is no need to get inside a paddock or go and fix the fence, women continue to express their preference of the unvarnished and natural in their appearance. This is not to say that the cliché of female new Zealanders of wearing only black and walking like soldiers is true. Far from it in fact since women here are self-confident and assured individuals who don’t need to take on masculine stereotypes in order to feel empowered. And yet neither will you see the average woman tottering in high heels and caked in layers of makeup. It is because women here are strong enough to like how they look and nor depend on popular constructions of the feminine in order to feel attractive. A case in point is Suzanne Paul, a TV personality, who is strong, resourceful, honest as well as with a femininity all of her own.

They put it like it is

Because of the rough and ready New Zealand culture, women here can be blunt and defensive in their behavior. They are not afraid of putting it like it is and don’t care a hoot if as a result they are considered unladylike. Some women may in fact go a step further and revel in masculine behavior like swigging off a few beers or swearing like hard-boiled seaman. This kind of blokey behavior may be enough to put off men who like their women to be feminine and dainty but then it also has its own attraction for men who are looking for partners they can be matey with rather than women who have to be wooed and courted till kingdom come.

Essentially practical

New Zealand culture is essentially practical and action-oriented. People here, including the women, have a higher regard for effective plans of action which bring result rather than intellectual theories which look good only on paper. Thus your New Zealand girlfriend may prefer you to come up with practical and concrete gestures which prove your love rather than realms of love poetry and gifts which look cute but are really of no use. Women themselves are quite practical in matters of the heart and even uncomfortable with mushy, sentimental expressions. This is why you may never get an effusive expression of love from your girlfriend but later find out that she has cleaned up your apartment or fixed the funny noise in your car while you were away on an overnight official tour.

Passionate too

Despite their practical and rather unemotional personalities, don’t make the mistake of thinking that women in New Zealand are lukewarm as lovers. In fact it is quite the opposite since they are rarely shy or demure about expressing their needs in bed. This probably has to do with the New Zealand culture which encourages its people including women to be upfront and definite in their expressions. Indeed an article in the New Zealand herald 1 mentions a study that suggests that New Zealand women prefer mates who are big and strong. The study, based on birth records for the five years to the end of last year, shows European women are far more likely to partner with men of ethnic groups that tend to be physically bigger and stronger like those from pacific, middle eastern and African ethnicity than European men are to partner with women from the same groups. Statistics NZ demographer Robert Didham, who presented the results of the study at a population association conference in Auckland in November 2011 concluded that the trend shows that for New Zealand women the “evolutionary pressure was alive and well”.

Learning to cope with violence

A significant downside of the New Zealand culture of physicality and masculinity is that women often bear the brunt of gender violence. According to national statistics, half of all violent crime in New Zealand is family violence and eighty-four per cent of people arrested for family violence are men. Thus women here learn to defend themselves from an early age and are wary of entering into relationships which reveal any hint of male physical assertiveness. So even if you don’t think much of wooing women Latino style, show your girlfriend that it is safe to be with you. Treat her with respect and consideration and assure her of physical and emotional safety. All this will go a long way in making your partner feel loved, secure and ultimately happy in the relationship.


The New Zealand Herald - What NZ women want: the biggest and strongest