Getting smart and attractive dating partners can be a challenge at the best of times. However when you have kids at home, finding the time and opportunity to meet the right people seems to be all the more difficult. And yet it is possible to have a satisfying social life even while juggling the many responsibilities at work and home. Here are a few tried-and-tested and creative dating opportunities for single parents looking for love.
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Expand your social circle
Make a start by working to enlarge the circle of people you know. Instead of just looking for a mate, include more people in your circle who bring positive vibes and enrich your life in different ways. On the other hand if you are under constant pressure of finding the “one”, you may be led on to take poor decisions and incur disappointments. Rather make new friends from both sexes and if you are lucky, you may be able to come across someone worth taking a chance for.
Keep it simple at first
Look for quick opportunities to meet people which will give you an idea if this is someone you would like to know better. Meeting a potential date over lunch or a latte is a good idea since this not only saves time but is a non-committal way of getting to know someone and find out what is important to either of you. There is little danger of either party assuming a hint of commitment since all you are doing is eating a pizza or sharing a cup of coffee together. After the break, you can go back, think about whether you would like to meet him/her again and then take it from there. And now matter how busy you are, a lunch or coffee break is something you surely take at least once a day anyway!
Join a hobby club
One of the best ways to meet new people is to join a special interest class. This will not only bring you in touch with people with similar interests but help you to learn something new and interesting at the same time. The best part of this strategy is that you need not worry about finding the time, since such classes are generally held over the weekends or just twice over the week. If you want to play safe, you could join a class related to something you already enjoy like music or hiking. On the other hand, you could end up having more fun by trying out a new interest like wine appreciation or ballroom dancing. After all the whole point is to go out and do new things with new people.
Inject some fresh blood
How can you expect to meet a potential date if all the people you ever socialize with are your co-workers or other parents of your kids’ friends? You need to get a new gang if you want to meet new people. Go about organizing a Party-Once-Removed which requires each member in the party to bring a guest nobody in the group knows. Alternatively, persuade a single friend or co-worker to take you to a couple of social events where he/she is invited. This way you will not only get to meet newer people but even get a feedback on potential dates from your inside contact.
Work out together
Joining a gym to check out other guests as potential partners is still a popular way of way of finding a date. But since you have kids waiting at home to fix dinner or help out with the homework, you may not be able to go to the gym every day or hang out with other guests after working out. However, if you do find someone you’d like to know better and if that person is committed to working out, what you can do is co-ordinate your exercise schedules together. Casually let the person know that you’ll be working out on Saturday morning and if he/she can join you. Again this need not be something very serious – just sharing a conversation or a few laughs across the treadmill will give you a sense whether this is something you would like to pursue further. And the best part is you need not take time out from your family’s schedule to meet a person you find does not match your priorities after all.
Take your kids along
Finding the time to date when you have kids and a home to look after can be a herculean task. One of the best ways to merge the two is to attend social activities as a family. For instance attend the social events organized by your church, synagogue or community elders with kids in tow. Here you can check out most of the single and eligible people in your community and at the same time you do not have to worry about your kids being uncomfortable at the event. This way you will not be passing another Saturday night with someone you don’t know at all and ultimately find that you never want to see again.
These days there are a plethora of dating websites which cater to the needs of single parents. You could even choose partners according to specific community, professional and age groups. Other advantages of going online are that you are able to reach out to a much larger number of people than you can manage in person. And you already have a fair idea about the interests, life priorities and looks of the person you are about to meet and therefore need not spend precious time finding about all these on an actual date only to realize that he/she is not something you are looking for after all.
As a single parent, you are hard-pressed for time and resources and thus it may not be possible for you to do all the things to have an active social life that people with lesser responsibilities do. The trick is to find quicker and less complicated ways of meeting new people, find out if you have matching wavelengths and then take your relationship from there.