Speed dating is one of the hottest trends in today’s social scene. Hardly surprising, considering men and women are all pressed for time and don’t have the leisure of trying out a relationship over several weeks. Speed dating allows couples to check out the chemistry in three minutes flat and on a regular night, you might be able to clock as many as forty dates. But since time is so short, it is crucial that you make the right impression on your speed dating partners. Here are a few tips to go va-va-vroom with the girls at a speed dating event.
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Approach your speed dating partner with a frank and open smile and you are sure to hit off with the right note. Nothing improves a person’s appearance as a real smile and the positive feeling it generates can go miles in creating a good impression on the girl before you. However make sure that you are not faking it or coming precariously close to a leer. Be natural and sincere and your date is sure to be charmed by your smile.
Take care how you dress
Yet another factor in making the right impression is your appearance. Make sure you have taken care of your personal hygiene and are looking neat. It is best to dress in smart casuals but this does not mean that you turn up in faded jeans and a much-worn tee. Remember that your partner will be meeting dozens of other men at the speed dating events and you must dress well to stand apart from the crowd. Even if you are feeling adventurous in the spirit of the event, do stay away from fluorescent colors and vivid patterns. Psychologists believe that red is the color of attraction which actually creates a visual stimulation on the viewer and increases the blood flow. However even if you are hesitant to turn up in a cherry red jacket, you could go for a scarlet handkerchief tucked in the breast pocket or a deep maroon pullover. Again blue is a good color as it signifies stability, fidelity and dependability. Thus girls looking for a long-term relationship are likely to be attracted to men dressed in blue.
Get the chemistry right
Three minutes is a tad tight to impress a girl and so it is crucial that you get your body language right. One of the ways you can do this is by smelling nice and fresh. According to a recent study, women seem to be attracted to fragrances with black licorice blends but otherwise choose a fragrance that slightly more special than casual wear without being too heavy. Also make sure that you do not engage in unseemly habits like finger-tapping or knee-shaking which may be construed as nerves or boredom. Adopt a relaxed posture but don’t slouch. Remember to keep your hands on the table and when speaking, lean slightly towards your partner. These signs will make you out as a friendly, open person who is interested in getting to know the girl better.
Keep it clean
A first date is just not the time to bring up sex and when all you have is three minutes, use your time better in a better way. Stay away from sexual topics or don’t even drop heavy hints. There are lots of questions you can ask about your partner which are fun and interesting without being sexual.
Limit your drinking
At speed dating events it is imperative that you remain completely focused and aware of your behavior. If you are taking too much alcohol, it might dull your wits and distract your attention – something which you just cannot afford to do at such events where you are trying to learn as much as possible about your partner in the shortest possible time.
As you are check yes or no against your scorecard, make sure that you write the girl’s name against her number. This way you will not get mixed up, which happens more often than people like to admit, and it will be easier for the organizers to figure out who’s who. Also as you sit down before your partner, keep your scorecard out of view or face down on the table. No one else needs to know about your preferences and scoring style.
If you are genuinely relaxed and having fun at the event, it will show and make you more attractive. On the other hand, if you look stressed-out or bored, you are likely to put off potential partners. Moreover, don’t take this as a challenge or the final test on your desirability to the opposite sex. Consider this just another way among many of meeting new and interesting people.
Follow up but don’t pester
At the end of the speed dating event or after a few days, you will receive contact information from the organizers about the partners you liked and who felt the same about you. Send them an email if you want to meet up, but keep it short, friendly and casual. Moreover if they don’t respond within a day, don’t go on sending reminders or repeat mails. People might be actually busy and nothing is so annoying as a man who pesters and can’t take it easy.
These were a few tips on creating the right impression on girls at a speed dating event. Finally, enjoy the evening for its own sake and if a couple of dates come out of it, regard them as a bonus. So, chin up and make the most of the four minutes –or less – that you have.