My husband is very unromantic - how do I change him?

[wendy]

My husband is a very unromantic sort of guy. I like a nice ambience, candles, chocolates, roses, aroma, clean sheets and everything romantic. I read romantic poetry, sometimes show him some, nothing appeals to him. He's just not romantic. I don't remember the last time we cuddled together and didn't have sex soon thereafter. How do I make him more romantic? If you're wondering why I married him, he's a gem of a person otherwise. He's very intelligent, successful in his career, a family man and always loyal to me. I'll just like to change this one thing. I've tried everything. Nothing works.

[happygardener]

Everyone isn't romantic. Maybe you can try explaining to him how all of this is important to you. You can get him a few books on this. Tell him how you love just cuddling up to him. Find out what he likes and try to include some of those activities in. Sometimes a guy can be preoccupied with work or have some other stress that results in a lack of romance. AS you say, he's a 'gem of a person', these minor issues can be fixed with better communication. If nothing else works, take a holiday somewhere. It'll kill the monotony and maybe improve the romance between you two.