How to Get Back your Ex-Girlfriend if She's Still Single
So maybe you had a good thing and then lost it. Maybe you did not realize just how good you had it until it was gone. Whatever the scenario may have been, now you know you want it back. Here are some ways that may just help you get back into the arms of the one that got away.
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Getting your ex-girlfriend back is going to depend a lot on how it ended and why. Did you give her the boot? If so, you need to look at the reasons that you wanted her to leave – both the real ones and the ones you told her. How have things changed? Why did things change? Will these issues become problems again after the get back together high is gone? Chances are if you ended it, she may be pretty hurt by the whole thing. Here are some tips to help.
Say you’re sorry
I know it sounds like something mom would say but even mom could be right sometimes. A nice, heartfelt sorry can go a long way. Here is the tough part. You have to mean it. Saying you’re sorry and not meaning it will help you about as much as telling her you fantasize about her sister. It will just end badly for everyone involved. And trust me; she will know whether or not you mean it.
Tell the truth
Everyone knows that honesty is the best policy. What everyone also knows but never says is honesty is hard. Did you ditch her so you could try your luck with a new girl only to strike out? Tell her now. Let her get mad about it and get over it. That is definitely not something you want her finding out about later and they always find out later.
Give her time
Time heals all wounds or so they say. Once you say you’re sorry and tell her the truth, chances are there are going to be a few bruises. Let her have the time to get mad, get sad and think it through. How long that takes depends on the girl. Hopefully you will know her well enough to guess about how long that will take. Little advice, it will be more than an hour.
Now if she was the one doing the ending things are a bit different. Instead of sucking it up and being apologetic, now you have to suck it up and figure out what you did to run her off. Chances are she told you something when she said you were done. Guess what guys, she didn’t tell you everything. I know I hate when they use our tricks on us. Here are some things to think about when trying to get back in her good graces.
Take a good look in the mirror
Take a good look at yourself and figure out exactly what it was about you that made her run. This could take some time. You have to think about her feelings and needs and whether or not you were taking care of them. Yeah I know. Just shoot me and get it over with. But if you truly want this girl back, it’s going to take some work.
Be honest about what you can change and what you can’t. Some things are easy to fix. She didn’t like that you didn’t have a job? Go get a job. Hated your beard? Grab a razor and go at it. She couldn’t stand your friends? Well just go out and….wait a minute. Some of those guys have been with you since middle school. You can’t just drop your best friend for some girl can you? Answer the question honestly or be ready to be single again before you know it.
Give her time
Sound familiar? I have some bad news for you. When you call her up and say “really baby I’ve changed” she is going to say “yeah right”. How many times do you think she has heard that one before? You are going to have to show her. Ask if you can just hang out with her or in a group with other friends. Let her see that you really are the new man you say you are. And while you are showing off the new you make sure you let her see that all the things she loved about you before are still there.
Don’t ask her to marry you just to get her back!
This article was suppose to tell you what to do to get her back but I think it a good idea to throw in a don’t. I’ve seen too many guys make this mistake and generally it is a mistake. If she left you because you had commitment issues there are other ways to commit than saying “I do”. I’m not against getting married. But proposing to get her back is not the way to go.
In the end, there were reasons the relationship did not work the first time around. Those reasons are as varied as the people who experience them. By being honest with yourself about why things failed, how things can be better and whether or not it is worth the changes that will need to be made you could have a good shot at saving what could be the best part of the rest of your life.