Breaking up

Breaking up with a partner can sometimes be traumatic. Even though you saw it coming or made it happen yourself, you may not be ready for the impact of the break-up. Suddenly you are alone and no longer part of a couple. It feels like a giant missile burst up on your life crushing your dreams and aspirations, leaving your daily existence a strange and difficult place to be.

If you're the one whose relationship is breaking up and he still wants to be friends.

1. Hear him/her out
It always pays to see give the other partner an attentive listening ear. Even if you are highly-strung and seething with emotion, try and put on a brave front and see what they have to say. You know the other person well enough to decide whether he/she is being genuine.

It might seem rather strange to some people to perceive a relationship between a boy and his ex-girlfriend. Yes, we may sound a rather brusque when we talk about ‘relationship’ and ‘ex-girlfriend’ in the same breath. How can these two apparently contradictory terms gel together? One may wonder. Relationship need not always connote an amorous kind that may exist between a boy and a girl. A friendship for instance is one such relationship that can happen between a boy and girl, or rather, his ex-girlfriend.

41. Have a Girls/Guys Night Out

Do something wild with your gal pals or have a guys-only party. Don't drown your sorrows in a drink but do let your hair down enough to have a really good time, since you don't have to impress anybody.

42. Go for a Movie

If you're a movie buff, catch the latest one to hit town. Break up survival advice: Stick to something light and funny like a comedy or even an attention-grabbing,
sitting-on-the-edge-of-your-seat thriller. Avoid heavy, serious dramas or even worse, mushy romances.

21. Reinvent yourself

A necessary part of dating is breaking up. Not all relationships are meant to be. If the person you love leaves you, it often feels like the end of the world. But hey, it's not! Did you know that swans mate for life and when they lose their lifetime mate, they become vicious and destructive? It's unbearable to be around them. Fortunately for humans, there's more than one mate out there for us. And we have the intrinsic ability to mend our hearts and get on with our lives.

11. Think about all the Aspects of your Life you should be Grateful for

Claire was riding high on life and love thanks to the loving relationship she shared with Ben. Ben would always reassure her that this flowery chapter of her life would never end, their relationship was strong enough to withstand the test to time. Sadly today, the reality is quite different. Ben and Claire have broken up. They had spent several months to build their relationship and it took just over a minute to sever all ties. An 'unshakeable bond' had come to an end. There are many people out there who may have gone through a similar situation like Ben and Claire.

To many of us, being successful in terms of a career is important, but equally so is being content and fulfilled in a good relationship. When we think we’ve found it, our happiness knows no bounds. And when it seems like it’s over, we go through a gamut of emotions – anger, despair, grief, sadness, and depression. We feel lost and adrift, unsure what our next move should be. It’s actually very clear. It’s akin to losing a near and dear one. And when that happens, the first step is to let go.

31. Empathize