Breaking up

Ending a long-term relationship is a difficult business, no matter how little the reasons for breaking up have to do with you. There are years of feelings, hard work and hopes for the future invested in the relationship which may even affect others like kids. However, once you have decided that it is best for you both to part ways, here are a few tips on doing it amicably.

Consider the reasons

The breakdown of a marriage is without doubt one of the most painful experiences that anyone can go through. Not only does it signify the end of a partnership but brings with the terrifying question of what will happen to the children if the spouses decide to divorce. Many couples in fact continue with a bad marriage to spare their children the trauma of a broken family. But what really is the best thing to do – stick it out for the sake of the kids or decide to part in peace?

It may come as a nasty shock to you when your girlfriend suddenly announces that she needs a break from the relationship. It is easy to assume that she is walking out on you but she may not necessarily mean that. Here are a few tips on how to respond to your girlfriend’s decision and keep all options open.

Don’t make it messy

In the aftermath of a breakup, you may feel as though you can never get back to loving someone again. And yet if you have allowed ample time and space to your heart to heal, it is possible to start anew after a breakup. If you are still unsure about how to proceed, here are a few tips which will make it easier for you to rejoin the social scene.

Relationships go bad more often than you may like to believe. But when you are already affianced to someone, breaking up can make you appear heartless, selfish and a whole lot of other negative things. At the same time, you probably already know in the core of your heart that your relationship is beyond repair and the sooner it ends, the quicker everyone can move on. Here are a few tips on how to break up with your fiancé.

Romantic relationships have a funny way of taking a person through a roller coaster of emotions. Just when you thought you had a good thing going with your partner, you end up being shown the door. Or maybe you had sensed something going awry in your relationship but never imagined things to come to a point where your partner would walk out on you.

A breakup is hard to accept, especially when you have invested a lot of time and effort in building a relationship and nurturing it. There are times when you feel that if only that had not happened or this person had not come in between, your relationship would have been perfect. The two of you would have been blissful in each other’s arms and no force in the world could have driven your man away. Beware; these are signs that you are getting obsessed with your ex-boyfriend.

In a relationship, whether or not you have plans of a future together, there’s always a certain sense of grief when it’s over. It’s obvious that you will feel like your life is empty and pointless. Like any other horrible phase in your life, this too shall pass. Break ups can be compared to bereavement, because in its truest sense, it does mean the loss of a person. You can get over a break up in a healthy way and move on with your life. There are no rules with regard to dealing with post break-up trauma, but you should take care of a few basic things.

Sometimes despite your best efforts, a guy or girl may not respond to a relationship with the level of warmth and commitment that you hope for. Some may prefer to be upfront and tell you that this relationship is going nowhere while others may idle along and hope that sooner or later you see the writing on the wall. In case of the second situation, here are ten signs that should tell you that you are wasting your time in a relationship.

Being dumped is hard on anybody. You go through phases when you feel like a loser and doubt yourself. Your self-esteem takes a knock and you wonder what you could have done better, how you could have made things right. If he dumped you because he was seeing someone else, you probably feel even worse. It leaves you agonizing over what she has that you haven’t or the relationship they now probably enjoy that you once did.


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