Commitment and monogamy

Are you wasting time with men who're just looking for sex?

A lot of women end up wasting time with a man hoping he'll go down on his knees and offer a ring someday and sadly that doesn't happen as often as we wish it would. It could be said that men are more likely to be comittment-phobic compared to women. It could also be argued that women, atleast some of them, meet the wrong men. We'll like to think however that women look for love in all the wrong places.

Looking for love in the wrong places? 

Commitment cannot be a single minded decision, with one partner issuing all the rules and conformities, it has to be a mutual agreement of needs and requirements in a future you want to share together, with commitment levels you present to each other open to compromise and discussion.

Marriage is a wonderful union of two people who love each other and wish to cherish each other for all eternity. They trust each other more than they trust any other person on Earth. They are willing to open up their souls to one another and allow each to read the deepest secrets hidden there. There is nothing one hides from the other. Each shares every moment of their life with the other.

‘Falling in love’ is a powerful phrase in today’s culture. It’s the subject of many a movie, play, television serial and many many many a romance novel. Naturally, this phrase is open to interpretation and means different things to different people. While its meaning varies, so do the circumstances which cause us to ‘fall in love’. Moreover, each stage of a romance has it stages, each stage unique and wonderful, but distinct and real nonetheless.

The fragrance of scented candles wafts through the air, a bunch of roses perched at your windowsill is reminiscent of a memorable evening, the greeting cards that keep pouring into your mailbox for no particular rhyme or reason sends a euphoric thrill down your spine. Love, which was an all-pervading force in your life a few weeks ago, seemed to have faded into oblivion after an untimely end of a long-term relationship.

What seemed to be an eternal bond while it lasted, suddenly seems to be a meaningless relationship destined to be doomed.

A healthy relationship is not just about acquiring your woman’s love and affection. A relationship can sustain all the ups and downs in life if there is an equal amount of love, sharing and respect for each other. The most basic rule or necessity of a relationship is mutual tolerance and respect. When you live with someone or have been dating your woman for a long time, she should be tuned in to your needs and moods and understand the way in which you function.

What if your relationship with your boyfriend has become an integral part of your life, a characteristic of your identity, then you suddenly discover that your boyfriend whom you had begun to love is cheating on you. It is extremely difficult and furthermore painful to deal with this bitter truth. This boyfriend, who left no stone unturned to express his ‘undying’ love for you was actually repeating the same words to another girl!

Somehow you’ve just got what it takes. Women find you undeniably attractive and irresistible. Lucky you! Most men would kill to be in your shoes. But you’ve got a problem…you have a girlfriend! And women just seem to get a kick out of fawning over you when she’s around. You’re on uncertain territory – you’re unsure whether to enjoy the adulation and bask in it, or pretend like you didn’t notice it in the first place and that it’s no big deal!

A wedding is a very special occasion in the life of a couple. Sometimes the marriage is short-lived and very soon, the couple is knocking on the doors of the divorce court. But when a marriage survives and the couple continues to enjoy years of wedded bliss, it is surely an occasion to celebrate all over again. And often, the couple feels the need to renew the vows they once made to each other. It is probably a reaffirmation as well as a thanksgiving perhaps, for still being together and growing stronger.

Infidelity must surely be one of the most difficult problems to face in a relationship or marriage. The discovery of an unfaithful partner can be devastating. And surviving infidelity is no mean task. It can often wreak untold damage on the marriage and those involved.