Commitment and monogamy

The explicit portrayal of sexual subject matter for the purposes of erotic or sexual satisfaction is nothing new. But what makes pornography a major threat to contemporary relationships is its overuse which experts believe are now causing a host of problems between men and women. So before you allow pornography unrestricted entry into your bedroom or even home, keep in mind its potential for ruining relationships.

Hollywood is where you can find it all – glitz, glamour and fame. Only that the last is fickle and relationships likewise are even more transitory. However in the midst of so many breakups and infidelities, there are marriages which keep going on, bucking the trend firmly in its face. So here are the stars who have made the almost impossible happen and have some of the longest lasting marriages in Hollywood.

Marriage is a wonderful union of two people who love each other and wish to cherish each other for all eternity.  They trust each other more than they trust any other person on earth.  They are willing to open up their souls to one another and allow each to read the deepest secrets hidden there.   There is nothing one hides from the other.  Each one shares every moment of their life with the other. 

An attempted suicide is often not the final step to oblivion for a depressed person – it could be a cry for help, an attempt to get others notice his/her pain before it becomes bearable and to die is the only way out. But to a partner these repeated attempts at suicide are extremely traumatic.

It is no secret that financial stress is one of the biggest reasons for a relationship coming apart. Love often proves to be inadequate when money is tight and couples can’t cope with the situation together. Even when there is enough dough to go around and you are in no major debt, if the way you handle money differs significantly from that of your partner, you may keep having fights about spending and saving. In order to see if you are financially compatible, here are a few questions you can consider.

Do you have common financial goals?

Though conventional gender roles are undergoing massive change in society, the husband is still the one who is expected to bring home the bacon – in other words, pay for the bulk of household expenses. Many men may resent this, especially if their wives are earning as well as even higher than them. While the exact division of expenses in a marriage is largely a matter of personal dynamics, there is no doubt that an arrangement which is not equitable is bound to leave at least one of the spouses feeling short-changed.

In recent times the health benefits of marriage have been widely discussed. But while strong partnerships can help us avoid illness, adopt healthier habits, and even live longer, it is increasingly becoming evident that troubled relationships can have the opposite effect of ruining the health of partners by breeding stress and weaken immunity.

What do numbers say?

Infidelity must surely be one of the most difficult problems to face in a relationship or marriage. The discovery of an unfaithful partner can be devastating. And surviving infidelity is no mean task. It can often wreak untold damage on the marriage and those involved.

Now that you have met the man of your dreams, you cannot wait to move ahead to a ‘relationship’ and then if things go really well, even get married to him. However what makes a man an ideal boyfriend and a perfect husband could be two entirely different things and after the excitement of the wedding has died down, these differences could come to you as a rude surprise. So if you are considering walking down the aisle with your partner, here are a few clues to tell you if a man is good husband material.

Commitment cannot be a single-minded decision, with one partner issuing all the rules and conformities. It has to be a mutual agreement of needs and requirements in a future you want to share together, with commitment levels you present to each other open to compromise and discussion. Pre-conceived ideas or fears about commitment is understandable and is essentially preparing you to understand the difference between promise and commitment.


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