No matter how perfect the wedding and romantic the honeymoon, sooner or later the day-to-day reality catches up with every married couple. This is the reason that while the first year of marriage is a time for intimacy and discovery, it can also be marred with conflicts. Here are some of the most common difficulties that newlywed couples face in the first year of marriage.

Money issues

Being in a relationship with an alcoholic is perhaps the second worst thing after being an alcoholic yourself.  Often it would seem like you are dealing with two people; the sober person who is genuinely repentant and even ready to fight the addiction and the person under the influence of alcohol, who is unable to deal with the challenges of real life. If you find yourself and your family increasingly being affected by your partner’s alcoholism, it is time to take action.

Identify the problem

Your spouse’s family is an inseparable part of who he or she is. All the reasons why you love him/her today and have chosen the person as your life partner is partly because he/she was brought up as such by his/her parents, and especially his/her mother. And yet the same person is also capable of creating problems for you both so that you may even find it impossible to continue with the marriage. Here are a few things you can do if your mother-in-law is ruining your marriage.

Get real

“The opposite of love is not hate, it is indifference”. This is a common truth among counselors who will also tell you that it is also one of the main causes why a couple satisfactorily married for so many years finally decides to part ways for no apparent reason. If you believe that you are facing such indifference from your husband and before it can do further harm to your marriage, here are a few things you can do.

It has potential for breakup

Marriage vows proclaiming that you will take your spouse “for richer or poorer”, “in sickness or health” and “till death do us apart” seem little more than inspiring words during the wedding ceremony. It is only when an ugly reality like a life-threatening disease breaks in the monotony of married life that the vows are actually put to test. So if your wife has just been diagnosed with breast cancer or if you have been battling it as a couple for some time, here are a few tips on how to cope.

Many women have been at the receiving end of the apparent inability of men to remember important dates in a relationship. Explanations are numerous and varied - ranging from the favorite one of men being essentially thick-headed to merely feigning forgetfulness so that they can escape having to spend money on gifts. Whatever the truth is - and this will differ from one guy to another – it is his partner who in the end is left feeling hurt by the seeming insensitivity of her man.

A marriage is at the best of times a delicate balancing act between differing personalities and priorities. However things become more complicated if one of the spouses is prone to fly into a rage as a way of dealing with problems. Here are a few tips on how to keep your own cool and stay safe when your spouse has anger management issues.

Understand anger

One of the most trying situations in a relationship occurs when your partner wishes to control every aspect of your life. If you find your partner determining what you should do, whom you should not meet, even what you should wear and think, you know you have a problem at hand. Here are a few things you can do when your partner is a control freak.

People with passive aggressive behavior can be a trial in routine life – a co-worker who avoids responsibilities or a neighbor who ignores common requirements of civil existence can be painful to deal with. However having such a person as a partner can drive one crazy because of the latter’s difficulties with communicating and resolving issues in a healthy manner. Worst of all, living with passive aggressive behavior could suck you into a pattern where you and your partner avoid problems rather than deal with them.

Time was when motherhood was assumed to be the main role of adult women, in both the family and larger society. Thanks to educational, professional opportunities as well as to greater emancipation enshrined in modern society, this is no longer the case. Women need no longer be chosen as partners solely on the basis of their reproductive potential. And yet the fact remains that raising a family is central to the happiness of many men. So if you are wondering whether your girlfriend or
wife will be a good mother, here are a few signs to watch out for.


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