Advice

Every one of us has experienced jealousy (or the 'green-eyed monster') somewhere or at some point of our lives. Jealousy has to do with possessiveness in relationships and is different from envy, which is targeted at someone else’s achievements or possessions. Jealousy is born out of other emotions like fear, anger, betrayal and powerlessness. Envy is a petty emotion that seethes with rancour against someone else’s happiness.

You take a woman out with all good intentions of treating her like a queen. You vow to yourself that you will see to it she has a good time. And that she will come away from the date feeling great. But what if you and the attention you shower on her is not enough? What if she needs more? Who is this woman?

There are those women who men just love to love. They are feminine, humorous and delicate and know how to make a man feel like a man. And then there are those women who send out certain signals, loud and clear, which tell a man he’s better off staying away. He somehow knows that he’s going to be out of his depth trying to handle her. Or he’s going to burn his fingers trying.Do you see yourself in any of these women?

With guys having to try so hard sometimes to meet a woman, pick one up or get a date, you’d think a woman coming on to a guy would be a welcome thing. But while most men might not be averse to a woman coming on to them, what about when she comes on too strong? And what would constitute coming on too strong?

You fell in love with this girl who seemed to embody all you ever wanted in a woman. But there was only one problem. She didn’t seem to feel the same way about you. You really liked her, but couldn’t seem to get her to like you in return. Or worse yet, not only didn’t she like you, but also seemed to spurn your advances. And even though you feel you tried every trick in the book, she flat out rejected you.

You really liked this girl and you thought that there could be no other. You went out of your way to seek her out and did all you could to capture her attention. You’ve even gone so far as to try a makeover and charm all her friends and acquaintances in the hope that it would make a difference. But somehow, nothing seems to work. The harder you try the more distant she seems. You just can’t seem to get through to her. She doesn’t even notice you exist, or if she does, it’s like she wished she hadn’t.

When you’re getting to know each other and are in the initial stages of a budding relationship, it's best not to reveal everything about yourself to your lover. If you insist on telling him everything, even if your life is an open book, he might be bored because he already knows more than he probably needs to. It is always good for a relationship to retain a hint of mystery and to keep him guessing a bit. It is more fun to let him discover things for himself and gradually uncover your hidden depths, layer by layer.

There are scores of women out there – single, available and waiting for a guy just like you to walk into their lives. But they either escape your notice or you always find yourself being drawn to the wrong ones – the married kind. If you’re the kind who likes to live life a little dangerously, there’s probably an element of the furtive that adds excitement with a married woman. Meeting on the quiet, trying to escape being noticed, arranging clandestine meetings, lends a certain charm to the affair.

It is often said that you can gauge how a man will treat the woman in his life according to the way he behaves towards his mother. So when a man is caring and respectful with his mother and has an excellent or even a close relationship with her, it is great news for his wife/girlfriend/partner.

You often hear a wife complain, "My husband never listens to me." Or a girlfriend agonize to her best mate, "My boyfriend never seems to pay any attention to what I tell him". In fact, a woman was ranting about how she’s been talking about wedding arrangements to her fiancé for months, and yet when she asked him a few questions about some detail she’d told him about earlier, he hadn’t a clue what she was talking about!