Falling in love

"Love is a many splendored thing," is a wonderful old song. We all have a basic need to be loved. When we are children we are content with maternal love and familial bonds. As we mature and we form romantic relationships, initially we may want to keep things light and uncomplicated. But as relationships deepen most individuals feel an innate need to love and be loved in return.

In that gloriously unforgettable episode of Friends, Monica Gellar (Courteney Cox Arquette) gets down on one knee before Chandler Bing (Matthew Perry) and says "I never thought I’d be so lucky to fall in love with my best….my best….my best friend". Of course, they go on to get married, buy a house, have a child (albeit through a surrogate mother) and generally live 'happily ever after'.

You spot a girl across a crowded room. The twinkle in her eyes seems to reflect her effervescent nature, the smile on her lips has a radiant effect on the room. She seems to exude a certain kind of warmth that reaches out and touches your heart. As you walk across to her, you seem to be absolutely debilitated in her presence. Is she the girl who you think could be the one? You try to confirm it by getting to know her better. So you become good friends and soon turn into best friends.

Some people can express their feelings so well, like Robert Burns, who wrote,” O my luve’s like a red, red rose, that’s newly sprung in June….”. Others are like Big Moose in Archie comics, who just manages to say to his girlfriend, Midge, “Duh!”. . If you fall into the latter category it is time you honed your communication skills and charm the ladylove with a deluge of beautiful words and deeds. Here are 10 tips to express your feelings if you just fall short of words.

It is believed that people in love listen to their hearts rather than their minds. ‘Love is a state of euphoria in which our senses become numb and it is just the beating of our hearts which is audible" , says lovelorn Anne, who is smitten by Scott, her boyfriend of one year. Incidentally Scott echoes Anne’s sentiments and adds, "When in love, logic or reasonable thinking takes a backseat; we either trust our intuition or listen to our heart.

The conventional notion of romantic love makes it an exclusive emotion – one that can be felt for only one person at any given moment. However there is no accounting for what the human heart is and is not capable of feeling.  So can you really be in love with two different persons at the same time?

  1. America fell in love with the innocence of a kid who just was honest, saying, I did the best I could, and I had no formal training. - Paula Abdul, Musician
  2. But no one frees himself from being in love in three days. - Isabelle Adjani, Actress
  3. In love, one should simplify, choose persons worthy of their promises and leave them if they don't keep them. - Isabelle Adjani, Actress

As relationships increasingly become fragile and short-lived in today’s world, many singles are left wondering if they will ever find a true partner – one who is not simply a friend-with-benefits or a generous provider but a soul-mate, something who is the answer to all your dreams. So if you are tired of weaving in and out of relationships and want the real thing, here is an exhaustive list of the ways you could find the love of your life.

The love of your life

It’s been a few years since you got married and your life’s like…well…vanilla...nice and  boring.

Variously known as objectum sexuals, object sexual or objectophiles, these people are marked by rather different choices in partners – inanimate objects. OS individuals not only experience sexual gratification in their attachment to a particular object – as in fetishism – but exhibit the emotional bonding and even the commitment of a relationship. Unbelievable as it sounds, here are five people known to the world as objectophiles whose love for objects have been reported in the media.


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