Remember when you were single? You could go to the club and have any man you wanted wrapped around your little finger. You knew how to bat your eyes, pout your lips and smile in a way that promised skills any man would die for. They worked great. And then one time they worked a little too well. Or, I should say, they worked on just the right guy. Now you are married.. The marriage part is good. But kids, careers and home life just don’t leave a lot of time or energy to keep that old spark hot and bright. Not to worry. It’s never too late to reignite that old flame and fan it into a roaring fire once more.
TIP: Read the guide to seducing your husband.
Generally women let the man take the lead when it comes to seduction and romance. This is great if you are married to Don Juan DeMarko. Every night would be filled with roses and poetry and you would never have to work at telling him about your day while he watches the evening news. However, most women aren’t so lucky. So here are a few tips to get him off the couch and into your arms.
There are two main things to remember about men when trying to seduce them. First of all, they are visual creatures. You can talk to them about things all you want but if you really want to grab their attention, show them something. Secondly, they have a tendency to be a little slow on picking up subtle hints. With these ideas in mind, dress for the part. Don’t tell him you want him, show him that he wants you. Chances are he hasn’t seen you really dressed up for no apparent reason for a long time. Pull out something a little short, a little low cut and sure to leave him speechless. If you gave away all those outfits to your single friends a long time ago, it may be a good time to go pick up something new. It doesn’t have to be expensive. It just has to look the part.
When it comes to romance, nothing brings it down faster than a couple of kids running around. I love my kids just as much as the next parent but there is just no way to be seductive while watching cartoons and chasing a toddler. Or even worse, having a teen sit and scoff or make retching noises while you hold hands with your husband. Get a sitter for the evening or arrange to have them stay with grandparents, aunts, cousins or friends. Nothing screams seduction like a quiet night alone.
If getting the kids out of the house is impossible, so much the better. Leave them at home in the care of someone you trust and the two of you head out for the evening. Have a bag packed when he gets home, a change of clothes ready for him and the chore list for the next day clear. Then meet him at the door with a rose and a hotel key. If he needs a quick shower before you can head out, get in with him and help him get those hard to reach areas. Have your clothes laid out and your hair prepared so that once the shower is over you can be ready to leave in as little time as possible. Look good, dress nice but leave the make up to a minimum. For one it will save time on the preparation and for another, you want to be as touchable as possible this evening.
Next, go out for a nice dinner. Again, this does not have to be an exclusive restaurant. Just something you know he likes. Is he a steak person? Take him to his favorite steak house. If he is more of a pasta kind of guy, hit the Italian place you used to go to all the time back when you had time. Chances are you know what he likes and what he doesn’t. It is one of the advantages of seducing someone you know so well. It takes out a lot of the guess work. When dinner is over, order a nice dessert that the two of you can share. Keep the conversation casual over dinner. Don’t bring up the kids, the bills, the roof is leaking or anything else that is going to stress him out and take his mind away from you. Talk about the early days when you use to do spur of the moment things more often. Relive the good ole days.
Once he has had his fill, take him to the hotel. Going home is ok if you must but a change of scenery is great for creating the mood or enhancing it. A top price hotel is not needed here. Something clean and comfortable and quiet is ideal. See if they can have a bottle of something waiting for you in the room. If not, go and put it there before he gets home so it is ready when you arrive. Find the TV remote and hide it. No news or sports tonight. Bring a CD player with you and put on some quiet music. Candles are always a good touch. Just make sure they are not going to catch anything on fire.
By now he should be getting the idea. If not he is comatose. When you get to the room, help him out of those restricting clothes. Ever done a strip tease for your husband? If not, this would be a good time to try it out. Bring some lotion or oil and give him a nice massage. Don’t worry if you are not a professional. Even a bad massage is still good. No talking here. Just let him relax and enjoy the feeling of your hand on his body. Do it slow and sensually. Occasionally rub your body against his. Tease him until he can’t take it anymore. Again, chances are you know where and how to touch him to get just the effects you want.
When the night is over and everyone is sleepy and happy, fall asleep together and sleep late the next morning. Remember to have clothes with you to go home in the next day. If you follow these easy steps, you will see a definite increase in your relationship that will last much longer than that night. And you never know, he may just decide to return the favor for you in the near future.