What a woman wants in a man is a question that has not only flummoxed the greatest poets and psychotherapists of all times but continues to puzzle the average guy every day. The reason could be because every woman is different and thus is looking for different things in a guy. However there are certain essential ways to reach out to a woman and make her like you.
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Spruce up your appearance
This is the first step you need to take if you want to catch the attention of a girl and hold it. Making yourself presentable goes beyond buying a new jacket or brushing your shoes. It not only includes taking care of your teeth, hair and nails but also ensuring that you don’t have bad breath, body odor or grimy facial hair. Apart from following the basics of personal grooming, try and cultivate a simple yet unique personal style. A well-groomed and smartly turned out man is one of the few things that a girl can never resist.
Listen to her
A sparkling conversation on a date is one of the surest signs that you and your partner have clicked. But while you know that you have to be careful with what you say, also remember that she is most likely observing how well you can listen too. A guy who merely talks about himself or is only focused on showcasing his own wit and knowledge is no fun at all and most women will correctly gauge him to be self-centered and egotistic. So leave some spaces in your conversation which your partner can fill in with her own point of view; ask questions which will make her feel part of the conversation too and she will increasingly look forward to your company.
Make her smile
A lively sense of humor is apparently the biggest draw when it comes to women looking for a partner. A man who can laugh away the blues is not only fun to be with when the going is good but is actually quite a blessing to have around when the chips are down. However make sure that you don’t come off as crass or insensitive with your particular brand of humor; in fact every once in a while paying her thoughtful compliments can work equally well at bringing a smile to her lips.
Give evidence of a deeper personality
That women dig intelligent guys needs little elaboration. Even though this does not mean that you have to quote realms from your college dissertation or explain the finer points of quantum physics but coming up with a “duh” every time she wishes to have an intelligent conversation will not exactly give her the hots for you. For women, the brain perhaps is the sexiest part of a man and few things turn her on as an intelligent remark or a witty repartee. So the next time a woman invites you over to her place, beat her at Jeopardy and watch happens.
Look beyond appearances
Every woman is looking for a guy who is willing to see her as an individual with a mind and not just a means of making out. This is not to say that women don’t want to be thought of as attractive but only that they want to be considered living, thinking beings before that. It has been a long and hard struggle for women to be accepted as equals, both in society as well as in personal relationships and once you show that your respect her as a person and not merely as a body, she is sure to think positively of you.
Spend money wisely
One of the most important ways to make a woman like you is to give evidence of balanced financial habits - in other words, being neither a show off nor a miser. If this is too complex, read up on dating etiquette if you are confused about who should pay for what. Almost everywhere men are expected to pay on the first date and usually during the early stages of dating too. It is only when you are and your partner have begun to get comfortable with each other that she may offer to split or pay on a date. Also while paying up, don’t show off with your six credit cards or comment on how grand a dinner you treated her too. Apart from the fact that this is bad manners, you will come off as a jerk.
Watch how you behave with others
If you want to make a smart and intelligent woman like you, it is not enough to treat her with respect. She will keenly watch your behavior with people around you like the valet, the waiter at a restaurant or the usher at a movie theater. Remember to treat all these people with kindness and consideration. Being rude or nasty towards them would make your come off as petty-minded and mean.
Show her that you have values
No matter what your particular philosophy in life is, if you have certain convictions and are willing to stand up for them, women will respect and love you the more for it. Values like sincerity, generosity, compassion and doing good by others will never go out of fashion. Indeed as society becomes more self-centered and materialistic, these ideals will be valued even higher and especially coveted by women in a man.
Finally manners matter a lot
There is still no substitute for good manners when it comes to making the right impression on a woman. Arriving on time to pick up your date, holding the door open for her, sending flowers on important occasions and generally following the dictum ‘ladies first’ will not only mark you out as a gentleman in the best sense of the word but more importantly make her like you - a lot.