Has monotony set in into your love life after years of marriage? Here are ten ways to spice up your love life. After being married a few years – sometimes ten, fifteen, and in some cases, a far shorter period of time – couples often experience a kind of monotony. From every day being a new adventure and having fun, boredom sets in. And most often, it manifests itself in the bedroom, with couples finding themselves in the sexual doldrums. They are either tired of having sex with predictable frequency and even standard positions, or just simply too tired after a hard day's work to even summon up the energy to do it.