Celebrating your First Valentine’s Day Together

Valentine’s Day is undoubtedly one of the most popular romantic holidays of the year. For couples who are still getting to know each other, this can be a time of heady romance, butterflies-in-the-stomach feeling and unapologetic indulgence in all the frills of Valentine’s Day, ranging from chocolates and candies to huge bouquets of red roses. Here are some more tips on how best to celebrate your first Valentine’s Day together.

Keep it light

If you and your partner have been dating only for less than a month, you probably feel confused at what to do. Sending a typical Valentine’s Day card smothered in red hearts and roses would be embarrassing because you may feel that it is way too soon to say I love you. On the other hand you don’t want to let this day slip away without a teeny-weeny indication that you like hanging out with this person. If you've only been on a couple of dates, then stick to a nice card with a few words in it and a couple of kisses at the end. It may even be best to stay away from any presents at this stage. ; If you're feeling especially 'loved up', you can go for a single rose or a box of fine chocolates but don't deliver it to their work address. Pop it through their letter box or bring it with you if you're meeting up on the night.

A special date

Couples who have been together slightly longer may wish for something a little more special on their Valentine’s Day. But instead of planning something exceedingly elaborate and consequently getting hassled about it, try and keep things simple. Have a romantic dinner, see a movie or go out for a night on the town and just share the evening together. The important thing is to use this day as a way of affirming your feelings of love for one another so instead of heading to the packed dance floor or selling an arm and leg to get reservations in a fancy restaurant, settle for a steaming cup of cocoa or latte in the quaint café round the corner. Whisper sweet nothings to each or simply gaze deep and long into each other’s eyes. If all this sounds too corny, remember that a first-Valentine will come back again and later you may just wish you had done all this when you had the opportunity.

Explore local events

Yet another great way of spending Valentine’s Day for a brand-new couple eager to keep things casual would be Look up what’s going on in your town or city. Most of the time, there is a carnival, a fair or fete going on in a public park or the community grounds. Look up your local newspaper or the bulletins at your community center. Not only does the public atmosphere of these places ensure that a new couple feels comfortable, but such local events make excellent ways to have a good time on a budget. Generally there are no or very nominal entry fees. At the fair or fete, you can sample a variety of eats at the food stalls, try your luck at the games, get goofy before the magic mirrors, jive with the music bands and overall have a rollicking time with your sweetheart.

Write a Poem

While four-feet cards and life-sized teddy bears are all very well, there is little that can express feelings of love with such tenderness and transparency as a romantic letter or poem. If you have been together for at least a couple of months and things are moving along quite nicely , this Valentine’s Day would be the perfect occasion to let your beloved known how much he/she means to you and how lucky you feel to have found him/her. Write your loved one a poem and put it in a handmade card expressing how much love you have for them. On the other hand if you cannot get beyond roses are red, violets are blue, then simply write a love letter and end with a love quote that is most appropriate to your relationship. All this would be sure to sweep your partner off his/her feet and would mean so much because the words come straight from the heart.

Head for the outdoors

If you are lucky enough to have good weather on Valentine’s Day, there is no dearth of things you can do with your loved one. Pack some sandwiches and head for the outdoors. You could go hiking in the invigorating mountains or build a bonfire on the beach and admire the sunset. If your town happens to be near a water-body like a lake or river, you could go boating for the day. You could also go snow tubing or tobogganing to take advantage of the last snow of the season and if both of you are game, try your hand at making a snowman. Even taking a walk in the botanical park or town gardens can be a wonderful way to spend the day since nothing is so conducive to a romantic mood as the beauties of nature around you.

Spend some thought on the gift

This is the time of year when you need to pick out that special gift. It doesn't have to be an expensive one, just something that has a special meaning for your partner. For example, if she loves flowers, then you can collect your own fresh cut flowers and put together a nice bouquet that is inexpensive and it will have more meaning than buying flowers. Another example would be to compile a special CD of your partner's favorite songs.

Skip Valentine’s Day if you're both uncomfortable observing it

Then again if you are one of those couples who just don’t do Valentines that’s okay too. Instead of a romantic dinner, play paint ball or go rock climbing that evening. Even seeing a gut busting comedy or horror flick could be a possibility, depending on your preferences. Alternately you can stay in and have a takeaway followed by a film and some naughtiness. Anything to keep away the views of snogging couples which are a staple on this day at the flicks or restaurants.

Whatever your personal beliefs, it is best to Take a collaborative approach to the holiday. Try and lay your cards out on the table with regard to Valentine’s Day some time before the actual day. If you don’t discuss the holiday and leave it to chance, either of you may end up feeling hurt or completely uncomfortable. Keep the tone of your discussion light and fun, joke and ask questions about what he/she thinks of Valentine’s Day and in the end, take your cue from your partner.