In popular imagination, Valentine’s Day seems to be all about mushy cards, candy hearts and butterflies-in-the-stomach feeling – in fact all that is associated with new love and first dates. But married couples need not feel left out. Here are some wonderful ways to celebrate Valentines’ Day with your spouse and rekindle the magic of those heady days of early love.
Travel down the memory lane with your partner by putting together a scrapbook of the most significant romantic events in your relationship. It could include love letters, romantic cards, or even love poems you had written for each other. Hunt out photos of early dates, your engagement, marriage, honeymoon as well as others depicting romantic moments from family vacations and daily life. It will make a wonderful Valentine’s Day gift besides reminding your partner how much your shared past means to you.
Go on a date
Plan a traditional Valentine’s Day date with a movie and a dinner. Leave the kids with a babysitter or at a friend’s place so that you can spend the evening with your better half without worrying about what’s going on at home. You could catch the latest blockbuster at the movie theater or perhaps an opera or a concert if you both are lovers of classical music. Follow this up with a cozy dinner at your favorite dining place and if there is a dance floor, don’t hesitate to tug at your partner for a dance. Alternately, you can recreate your first date to add a twist to the Valentine tradition. Meet your spouse where you both had gone for the first time, order the same dishes and if possible, dance to the same music. This will not only enable you both to revive memories of days of youthful passion but also let you reaffirm your love for each other.
‘If music be the food of love, play on…’
A lot can be conveyed through music which may otherwise be difficult to put in your own words. Gift your spouse the latest Mp3 player this Valentine’s Day or better still, load the one he/she already owns with some favorite romantic numbers. To add a special touch look for songs which have been associated in some way with your shared past, for instance the song whose words your spouse quoted to propose to you or the number which was playing at your wedding party. If you are still at a loss of what songs to load, here are some ideas - “Big Kiss” by Carrie Rodriguez, “A Time for Love” by Abbie Lincoln, “I Just Want to Make Love to You” by Muddy Waters or perhaps “Luiza” by Antonio Carlos Jobim.
Do what you enjoy
Valentine’s Day is the ideal time to plan an activity you both love. If it is spending some quiet time in the midst of nature, book yourself in a bird-watching trip or a tour of a wildlife reserve. Again if you both are adrenalin junkies, spend the day scuba-diving or rock-climbing at the nearest adventure sports facility. Lovers of art on the other hand can spend the entire day browsing through art galleries and exhibitions besides pondering over the intricacies of Renaissance art over a cup of steaming coffee. The whole idea is to have good time doing what you enjoy but in the company of each other.
Check into a resort
As a married couple with kids perhaps, you both are busy juggling the twin responsibilities of family and work. So what better way to celebrate a Valentine’s Day than by checking into a nearby luxury resort and spending the day in relaxing but pleasurable pursuits? For instance when you have had your fill of the indoor heated swimming pool, unwind at the fashionable bar with a couple of vodka martinis. After that it would be time to check out the resort’s state-of-the-art health club, including the Jacuzzi and the sauna. Finally, while away the rest of the evening at their specialty restaurant, sampling a variety of gourmet foods and raising a toast to your love with the choicest of fine wines.
Have a Valentine’s ‘Staycation’ at home
On the other hand if you wish to avoid overpriced menus, the teeming crowds and exorbitant getaway packages, why not spend this day of love in the comfort and warmth of your own home. This just needs a little bit of planning beforehand. Have the kids spend the evening with grandparents or friends and do all the shopping at least a day in advance. When the two of you are alone, set the mood for a romantic evening with scented candles, soft music and a bottle of champagne. Keep a plate of appetizers handy to nibble in between and remember to turn off all sources of distraction including cell phones and BlackBerrys. Spend the evening watching mushy movies on the DVD or dancing to old romantic numbers and you’ll never want to go out again.
Make love coupons for your spouse
This Valentine’s Day inject some fun into your relationship by gifting your spouse a set of love coupons which can be redeemed whenever he/she wishes. The coupons could be redeemed for, say, an hour-long massage, a home-cooked dinner or for joint Salsa dance lessons. While preparing the coupons keep in mind individual talents, what you would like to do for your spouse without feeling pressured or the things your spouse often requests from you. Your partner will be thrilled to receive this gesture of love from you and you will have a ready-made list of romantic things to do with each other to last through the year.
As a married couple you realize that the Valentine’s Day of candies and roses is different from what love means to you now – a love which is mature enough to face the challenges of daily living but still passionate enough to keep you attracted to each other. Be creative but simple in expressing your love for your spouse and this Valentine’s Day you will surely enrich your store of happy and romantic moments spent together.